Strategies to Stop Abusive Behavior:
REMEMBER THAT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS DUE TO POOR CHOICES BY THE ABUSER
• Out-of-control anger issues
• Family history of abuse
• Substance Abuse
• Learned behavior
• Refusal to take responsibility for their actions
• Unable to handle their problems as a reasonable person
• Low self-esteem
• Regretful experiences from childhood
ACTIVE STEPS TO STOPPING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
• Realize that domestic abuse is caused by the loss-of-control of oneself which causes one to attempt to dominate and/or control others.
• Recognize that abusive behavior can be changed into non-abusive solutions.
• Take responsibility for your actions.
• Eliminate all excuses for one's behavior (e.g., drugs, alcohol, personal issues, self-esteem).
• Understand the behavior and sensitivities of your partner and others. (Use the information learned in this course to distinguish between abusive and non-abusive behavior).
• Control anger and maintain composure at all times. Remember we do not live in the Middle Ages. This is an Era of Enlightenment for social respect and dignity.
• As difficult as it may be, always express yourself in a reasonable, rational manner without yelling or engaging in ad hominem attacks.
• Realize the social and personal consequences of domestic violence and know that abusive behavior is unacceptable and not worth it under any circumstances (espcially considering the loss of custody, supervised or no visitation with one's children, forced evacuation out of one's residence, lack of access to funds, surrendering all guns).
• Admit that touching another person is a privilege, not a right.
• Do not be influenced by fictionalized media accounts (music, television, film, video games, etc.). Leave fiction in dreamland or your imagination.
• Read this website on a regular basis (including your partners, friends, and family).